On January the 11th 2020, I had the honour of being invited to talk on psychological domination, by the FemDom legend and scene matriarch Madame Caramel. This happened at a lifestyle and professional Female Domination event that brought many enthusiasts of FemDom together in a relaxed and opulent setting.

Here is the text of my presentation below. Hope it elicits thoughts and debate.


I met Jan from Prague on Twitter. His image and sweet manner stood out. Sub males are seldom stylish or focused on presenting themselves well. Style and beauty matters to me so it was a matter of time until Jan captured my attention with his pretty little boy from a bygone era aesthetic, his bow tie and docile, well bred demeanor.

I also found out he used to be involved in the world famous spanking movie production house Lupus. Their work was often very artistic, being more of a personal passion project. But on that another time.

As you know…


Ever since I started reading about Female Domination about ten years ago, a place has captivated my attention, a magic place where female domination is not an exception, but a rule and style of life.

This mythical place that has captivated us all for more than 20 years is the Other World Kingdom in the Czech republic. Otherwise known as the Womania Empire.

According to Wikipedia, “It provided a D/s environment of a size and consistency not available at any other facility in the world.”

Men existing in a state of captivity and subservience to a collective of powerful women — this has been a powerful fantasy for most anyone with an interest in FemDom.

To my great honour, I was accepted as a visiting Domme last year.

I have just returned from my first…


A different Kind of Domestic Goddess

Some of you asked me for spanking tips for a beginner. I am also often told my spanking is very pleasurable and to those curious to understand why, I have decided to share my tips, coming from 5/6 years of experience.

I brought together these tips that I hope will help and guide many successful and intimate moments of connection between subs and tops of all colors and flavors.

Glossary: bottom is not just the body part; in BDSM, it means the person who is, in one given session/interaction, submitting to either sadomasochistic practices, or domination. The top is the…


It is not every day that I have time to sit and arrange my thoughts these days. Modern life is way too busy, and I am certain there is a way to order reality that doesn’t involve all of us forever competing for attention in a world bombarded with output every day. Human invention and productiveness is in overdrive. I worry that the pressure to perpetually put forth content that all dommes — and performers and artists in general, are pressured to produce in order to stay visible, is weakening the quality and integrity of the output. But competition is…


But you have to wonder what happens to the parameters of your civil liberties in the meanwhile though.

Beyond the blow to our financial interest, what Fosta and Sesta do is advance totalitarianism via an avenue very hardly challenged (“dirty sex”, pornography and sex workers), and they’ve got to be opposed. Or else in 20 years it’ll be pretty much North Korea but with more shit to buy.

We’ll probably be OK, but everyone else will lose and us with them. Freedom, once lost, is never regained. …


Same Hell, different devil.

It is for this fact that fucking, fantasy and wanking have a bad habit of being mentally compulsive, dictatorial in their urgency, rather. It’s almost like nature doesn’t trust us to multiply unless we have strong opiates in our blood that motivate us to find other, similar unfortunates to be disgusting with.


Eros and Athens

The points below are by no means new; there is already a movement of kinksters and sex workers of all kinds calling attention to the walls closing in on our sexual freedoms. But, because of its important reach beyond the realm of sexuality into the realm of human rights, it warrants saying again. And again. Until people start caring and act, and in more convincing/effective ways than petitions and vagina-clothed marches.

The paragraphs below were posted on kink forums the readers of which displayed skepticism that things are indeed this bad. I therefore resort to the larger public of my…


This is an article I’ve written two years ago with the first ATVOD regulations banning types of porn. It seems tragically more current now, when all porn and perversion are under attack, on many fronts. How deep in the underground will we end up?

BDSM lifestyle under attack

Much and well has been written in the past two days on the topic of censorship in relationship to the new porn law. I experienced many successive stages, all involving atypical anger. I do not like to be censored and I love my porn.

My view is that this is not just about the several kinks…


This is a movement of METANOIA…A political understanding. Could be your very moment of enlightenment. The full path is a time-lengthy revelation, the most devoted get to grasp fully while the superficial graze by.

By the amount of sexual addiction that brought you to the candle-lit corners of BDSM Internet, it’s apparent you need guidance. You seek gratification, and deep inside you, lies an unconscious desire for more. Your body knows there is more truth to the contradictions of your sexual desires and your daily mundanity, thoughtless, drone-like. I am here to dissipate your illusions, and give you more than…

DICTATORESS

Alternative perspectives on sexual dissidence.

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